tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934394084691060355.post5634934565063361175..comments2023-02-16T10:11:29.626-05:00Comments on Third Time's A Charm: Visit with my GrandparentsThird times a charmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10411724104092998803noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934394084691060355.post-2977141103543198452009-01-26T14:55:00.000-05:002009-01-26T14:55:00.000-05:00Thanks for reminding me that I am not the only one...Thanks for reminding me that I am not the only one having a hard time and that I will have a different hard time after the baby. I think sometimes it is so easy to look at your current situation and think everything will be perfect if you can just get past the problem you have now. It's a good reminder and really does help. Thanks again.Third times a charmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10411724104092998803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934394084691060355.post-22656302956069085762009-01-26T10:34:00.000-05:002009-01-26T10:34:00.000-05:00" I could have sat there and told them I was plann..." I could have sat there and told them I was planning on catching a feral cat and raising it as our child and they would have volunteered to baby sit"<BR/><BR/>That made me laugh! They sound great. I was nervous about how to talk to our grandparents, too, because of how adoption used to be so different. I was particularly nervous about how my grandmother would react to Lucy being biracial because she is a "polite racist" if that makes any sense. I'm glad your talk with your grandparents was drama-free.<BR/><BR/>About your last paragraph, I firmly believe that you just can't know the answer to this until you are a parent. Then you'll look at that baby, whoever he or she is, and it will all make perfect sense. Until then, I would suggest you not even try to figure it out because it will just make you angry. At least that is my experience and what I've observed in others. It just plain sucks to be in the position you're in right now and there is no way to reason it out and understand it and make it feel better. But here is something that made me feel a tiny bit better when I was in your position, because it gives you permission to not be at peace with where you are right now: "Being young is hard. Being old is hard. Being unemployed is hard. Working is hard. Being single is hard. Being married is hard. Being infertile is hard. Being a parent is hard. Being a cynic is hard. Having faith is hard." (((Hugs)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com